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[mermaidshotel.livejournal.com]

if i'm terse and cranky-sounding in this entry, i apologise.
i'm just going to shorten names to A and S, because we know them already

1. A's comment - "I can't help but notice you belong to an LJ community called boy_touching. Maybe you should go back there." like astrokaiju, gryfindormia, and others, i took a look at the community and saw it was 18+, with no porn allowed. so that cancels out A's accusation that S was a pedophile. i interpreted a's tone as "go back to something lesser." that he was implying that being gay is something lesser. i hope that wording made sense.
2. both A and S were awesome posters. we know that. they will be missed. but just because you are a good poster does not give you the right to abuse another member. it doesn't give you the right to insult and lecture another member who has a differing opinion, or posted something you don't like.
it really, really disgusted me going through those entries and comments.

i am thinking of placing a temporary ban, but i'm still playing with it. if this happens, both A and S would be re-instated, to be completely fair.

i just want this to be a safe, considerate, and comfortable community where people can post without being scared they'll be attacked/flamed.

again, sorry for sounding so bitter and cranky. i used italics a lot. dumb me. i'm really tired. some sentences may have come out wrongly-worded. i'm going to bed.

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[(Anonymous)]

"A's comment - "I can't help but notice you belong to an LJ community called boy_touching. Maybe you should go back there." like astrokaiju, gryfindormia, and others, i took a look at the community and saw it was 18+, with no porn allowed. so that cancels out A's accusation that S was a pedophile."

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[silversolitaire.livejournal.com]

Uhm yes? Why repeat this to me? I've read it and my opinion still stands O.o. I don't see any accusation of pedophilia in that line. If A had said "I see you're a member of carebear_friendz. Maybe you should go back there" it still would have been rude, but nobody would have even thought to accuse this of being homophobic or A accusing someone else of being a pedophile. So it's really just interpretation.

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[faedreamer.livejournal.com]

In a later comment, to me actually, he called it a "thinly-veiled" pedophile community. It is nothing of the sort and made it clear that he was implying anyone who was a member there was a pedophile.

Just to clarify,not trying to restir the wank pot.

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[silversolitaire.livejournal.com]

Ah okay. Well, that is clearly wanky, I agree. But again, I'd be willing to notch this up to "stupid comments made in the heat of wankery". I think mistakes were made on both sides. I'd hate to be banned from a community I was active in for a long time over a couple of stupid angry exchanges. But then again, I may just be too soft-hearted >.>;.