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Once again out to late with

mashfanficchick and her mother, plus Theo, and another friend who I can't remember her livejournal name and she doesn't post any more anyway.

Actually the day started with therapy, which went well. Then I came home and napped since I was up so late last night.

And then I went over to

mashfanficchick's and we went shopping and then to dinner.

The FWiB called, just for a bit.

That's all.

Gratitude List:

1. Friends.

2. The FWiB.

3. Therapy.

4. Bed soon.

5. Shopping for food.

6. Good dinner.

Current Mood: rushed
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moonpuppy

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silver_chipmunk

Went out after work with

mashfanficchick to a lecture at Brooklyn Brainery on Bog People. It was fascinating. Then we ate at Uno which was having a deal on burgers.

Work was busy. I taught the computer class today, introduction to the internet. It went OK.

The FWiB called on my way home and we had a nice talk.

The Kid called, luckily after the lecture. Carmina has fleas somehow. It's autumn, not summer, and she's an indoor cat anyway, so how? But she does.

And that's all the news.

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. Friends.

3. Interesting lecture.

4. Lovely weather, not too hot, not too cool.

5. The Kid.

6. Bed now!

Current Mood: rushed
Crossposts: https://silver-chipmunk.livejournal.com/1173062.html

silver_chipmunk

I have to work at 9 tomorrow, yuck, so I need to be in bed soon.

Work went very well, I got a good audience for my program, so that worked out well. I was really quite afraid it would flop.

After work the FWiB called, and we had a nice talk, and then I went out to Carvel with

mashfanficchick and her mother. We didn't get dinner though so I am nuking something right now.

After Carvel we went to Target, and spent rather more time and money than we should have in the Halloween section.

I had texted The kid and asked her to call and she said she would, but of course she waited til late, I missed it and had to call her back. But we had a very nice conversation.

Roadkill told

mashfanficchick to tell me he's waiting to hear about the cats, so this still might happen.

Gratitude List:

1. The Kid.

2. The FWiB.

3. Carvel trips.

4. Got an audience today.

5. Dinner.

Current Mood: rushed
Crossposts: https://silver-chipmunk.livejournal.com/1172938.html

silver_chipmunk

The only thing that was unusual was that somehow I ended up doing the class for the AHRC group that come in on Tuesdays. I had nothing prepared so we just did a mouse exercise site, and that kept them entertained. At the end I printed a certificate for each of them and that made them happy. Everyone loves a certificate.

I did the laptop program with the teens, which was not a success, only two kids. But better than none.

I got a text from

mashfanficchick, asking me if I wanted anyhting from Stew Leonards, I said rice pudding and hazelnut coffee k-cups.

The phone was back on at the FWiB's nursing home so he was able to call me. We had a nice talk on the way to my meeting.

My meeting was small but good. I chaired, the topic was commitment.

Last night when I was deleting e-mails I found one from Betsy I had missed when it came in. She expects me to knock together some steps for the back door of the cottage. I replied and said that wasn't happening, there was no way I could do it. The contractor never called me back with a revised estimate, and I think we should just go ahead with what we have. I am totally fed up with this, and annoyed at Betsy.

Nothing from Roadkill about the cats. I don't think this is going to happen. *sigh*

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. My meetings and the people there.

3. Coffee in the morning.

4. Oldest Brother.

5.

mashfanficchick

6. More seasonal weather.

Current Mood: annoyed
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danthered

Alexandra Bridge, off the Cariboo Highway in British Columbia. Click for larger.

duskpeterson

"Sometimes I feel that he is as mysterious as the gods, and that he is hiding something of vital importance from me. Something that would transform my life."

Few events are more thrilling in a young man's life than a blood feud between two villages. Or so Adrian thought.

Torn between affection toward his traditional-minded father and worship of his peace-loving, heretical priest, Adrian finds himself caught between two incompatible visions of his duty to the gods. Then the Jackal God sends Adrian a message that will disrupt his world and send him fleeing to a new and perilous life.

Latest chapter: Chapter 18/27.

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"'You have committed a vile and savage act, one that any other nation would punish with death. Our punishment, on the other hand, will only be to give you what you want. You have sought to live in a world without boundaries of civilization, and such a world shall henceforth be your dwelling place.'"

A cold-hearted murderer. A vicious abuser. A young man hiding a shameful secret. A bewildered immigrant. A pure-minded spy.

All of these men have found their appointed places at Mercy Life Prison, where it is easy to tell who your enemies are. But a new visitor to Mercy is about to challenge decades-old customs. Now these men's worst enemies may be hiding behind masks . . . and so may their closest allies.

Latest chapter: Chapter 15/23. Beginning of "Mercy's Prisoner 3: Milord."

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"He tried to keep his voice calm, though his pulse was racing."

Time is running out.

Vito de Vere has ten days to prepare for his performance in the Eternal Dungeon's first play. He may have fewer days than that to fight for his career and to save his prisoner's life.

As the Eternal Dungeon prepares for the greatest change it has ever undergone, Vito must prove his worth by breaking and transforming a criminal. Nobody else is likely to manage it. And nobody but himself cares so passionately whether his prisoner survives.

As an actor, Vito portrays the qualities of courage, love, truth, and trust. Now he must find the strength to take those qualities into the breaking cell.

Latest chapter: Chapter 6/15.

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duskpeterson

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I cleared out my leather life this fall. Technically, all I was doing was donating my leather library – hundreds of vintage leather/BDSM magazines and a few books to the Carter/Johnson Leather Library, a travelling historical library that I had volunteered for in the 00s. But this was also a way for me to say goodbye to the period – 2004 to 2007 – when I'd belonged to the leather community. I proved to be a square peg there in a pentagonal hole, but I'd never had the opportunity to formally leave the community. This would be my opportunity.

At a certain point, I passed on some books by david stein (his name is lowercased) to my apprentice, who is a member of the leather club La Garou. It occurred to me then that I ought to drop a line to david. I'd fallen out of touch with all my friends this year, but I knew that david was ill with cancer, which made it especially important that I stay in touch with him.

Then the urgency of my current task – I was cutting back on my belongings because I faced an imminent inspection by my landlord – caused that thought to slip out of my mind.

I donated the magazines and books. On Twitter, I thanked the Leather Library, as well as the Leather Archives & Museum, which had originally sold me most of the magazines. Then I tweeted, "(*Quietly closes a door on that chapter of my life.*)"

Seventeen days later, I emerged from the bathroom to find my apprentice standing with his smartphone in hand, looking grave. "I think you should sit down," he said.

Thus I learned of the death of david stein.

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silver_chipmunk

Nothing special about it. Work was normal, I did the gaming program with the teens. It was only moderately successful.

The FWiB could not call because the phone system in the nursing home was down. Hopefully they'll get it working tomorrow. We exchanged many e-mails instead.

A friend, Rae, the one I was visiting when the ex-husband moved out, lost her much loved parrot today. I am saddened by this, first because she is grieving, second because I will miss her posts about him, and third because it triggers my grief for Bjorn. I still miss him so much.

Roadkill did not have time last night to get me the info about the cats.

Nothing much else to say.

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. E-mail.

3. Sybil.

4. Friends.

5. Quiet day.

6. Warm bed waiting for me.

Current Mood: okay
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silver_chipmunk

Roadkill is supposed to text me when he knows something. So I am waiting.

Anyway, woke up early this morning and continued helping

mashfanficchick and her mother with cleaning her place. We got it looking pretty darn good if I do say so myself. Then her father and his handyman came by and the handyman finished the work he had to do.

After they left, we went out to eat at a wonderful place called Witches Brew. It was delicious, I had a grilled cheese sandwich made with mozzarella, and a wonderful garden salad. Then for dessert I had a cinnamon bun with espresso chip ice cream. Yum.

After that we went to Bed Bath and Beyond and I got a rubber jar opener thing that I hope with get my living room light fixture unscrewed so I can finally put a new light bulb in it. I also got something small for The Kid for Christmas.

Then we went to Stop and Shop where I got a thing that you plug into an outlet to make itsix outlets instead of two.

The FWiB called while we were there and we talked for awhile.

After that we picked up my stuff at

mashfanficchick's apartment, including a vacuum cleaner she's given me, and they brought me home, where I lay down to read and rest til time to feed Sybil.

I am sooooo tired.

Gratitude List:

1. Friends.

2. Got work successfully done.

3. The FWiB.

4. Potential cats.

5. Yummy meal.

6. Bed soon!

Current Mood: exhausted
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silver_chipmunk

I am spending the night at

mashfanficchick's place, because I was with them all day and will be tomorrow too, so it just made sense.

We ate breakfast at Denny's , then went out to Long Island for her mother to get an oil change on the car. Then we came back here and did a lot of work in her apartment.

The FWiB called and we talked but only briefly because I was with them.

And we went out for dessert at Martha's Country Kitchen before they took me to my place to pack for the night.

Exciting news! Roadkill called and asked me if I was interested in two cats that need homes. A coworker died suddenly and only six of her eight cats have been rehomed. I asked him to get me details on the cats, and told him I was absolutely interested. They are litter mates. It depends on their age and health if I go for it, but I have my fingers crossed.

Gratitude LIst:

1. Friends.

2. National Dessert Day.

3. Getting stuff done for

mashfanficchick

4. Maybe getting new cats.

5. The FWiB.

6. Oldest Brother's phone worked OK tonight.

Current Mood: cheerful
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silver_chipmunk

With only an hour and a half left to go in the day, so I will cautiously say nothing too awful happened.

Work was OK, nothing special. We had a brief staff meeting, nothing of note. I was concerned that I got no e-mail from the FWiB except one early in the day, despite having e-mailed him, but at the end of the day I got one from him saying he hadn't gotten any e-mail all day from anyone. Then it started going through again.

I called the contractor about the cottage estimate, and not doing the back steps, but got his voicemail. Left a message. And I called Spectrum about my bill and got that more-or-less straightened out.

Went to dinner at Boston Market as usual, the FWiB called while I was there, and we talked until people started showing up at my meeting.

The meeting was very good, larger than usual. Topics were detachment, and Easy Does It.

Came home and got a fright when I couldn't get through to Oldest Brother (I call him every night, I just usually don't bother mentioning it in my journal) for a good 15 minutes. Turns out his hone never rang and the voice mails and text message I sent him didn't show up for at least half an hour. The phone finally rang for him and we talked but I was getting worried!

And while we were talking my internet connection started getting shaky. It seems OK now though

Gratitude List:

1. Oldest Brother OK.

2. Spectrum bill fixed.

3. My meetings and the people there.

4. The FWiB.

5. My internet is OK.

6. Didn't get rained on.

Current Mood: okay
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silver_chipmunk

Tired all day.

Work was OK, nothing special. Came home talking to the FWiB, had a nice conversation. He sent me e-mails while we were talking.

Got an email from Betsy. She wants me to call the contractor and find out how much the back steps are ging to cost and cancel them if they are over $800. Embarrassing and unpleasant, but I will do it. However I think she is wrong about being able to get prefab steps at Home Depot to use instead. I looked up Home Depot and searched for them and couldn't find any.

I also have to call tomorrow to Spectrum because they seem to have f-ed up my bill.

So I am in something of a dudgeon. Looking forward to getting to bed and reading a bit. Charging my Nook now.

Gratitude List:

1. Betsy wasn't as unpleasant as she is quite capable of being.

2. The FWiB.

3. The cottage.

4. Sybil.

5. My Nook.

6. Bed soon.

Current Mood: annoyed
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silver_chipmunk

Oldest Brother came in the morning and took us down to the vet to bring him. I should have the ashes back in about two weeks.

Then we went to Dunkin' Donuts and had coffee. And then he drove me to work.

The day went OK, I did the teen lounge, but didn't get to many kids.

After work I arranged with

mashfanficchick for us to meet for dinner at Uno, not the one we usually go to but in Bayside. And I talked to the FWiB, a very good conversation. After dinner we went to Carvel of course.

Oldest Brother hung out here for awhile but now he's going home.

No further word from anyone in the family about the cottage estimate. I have a bad feeling about this.

It's starting to sink in that Bjorn's gone and I miss him terribly.

Gratitude List:

1. Oldest Brother

2. The FWiB.

3.

mashfanficchick

4. Carvel.

5. Minimal rain today.

6. The sympathy of the people at my vet's.

Current Mood: melancholy
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duskpeterson

Folks, my profuse apologies for my delay in replying to your comments on my asexuality post. It was a case of:

"O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay! We passed the apartment inspection!"

And then, roughly five seconds later:

"We have bedbugs. Shoot."

So matters remain in crisis at my home; I'm not sure I've gotten a full night's sleep for the past month. (And the bedbugs ain't helping.)

A bright spot in all this was the outpouring of warmth that you gave me. It was especially nice to hear from folks whom I knew were out there (I can see your names on the People portion of my profile) but who I either hadn't heard from for a while or with whom I'd never had the chance to speak before.

Just one clarification I need to make, because I fear I misled some of you through the phrasing of my previous post of this: My previous post was the first time I'd actually said, "I'm coming out as asexual." The asexual folk I've interacted with previously either didn't know I was ace or didn't realize I was new to the community.

On to my replies!

Firecat wrote:

"I'm bi and nonbinary and maybe gray-a (haven't made up my mind about that)"

Me, I'm still trying to decide how to label the romance part of my asexuality. I mean, yes, I'm still capable of falling in love; it just doesn't mean much to me, in the grand scheme of things.

I fully understand that, for some people, being in love is a long-term, highly meaningful experience. And I find romantic love so fascinating that I wrote a fifty-page bachelor's thesis about romantic love. Also, I've written a few stories on the topic. :)

But falling in love is something that happens at the beginning of my relationships; my romantic feelings for the new person last roughly six months, and then the romantic feelings disappear. It's been this way all my life. Took me a while to figure out the pattern and to stop panicking when I reached the six-month mark. For me, love doesn't equal romantic love.

(This is why I always felt a bit awkward talking about my long-term "romantic friendship." Romantic feelings didn't enter into it, after the initial period.)

Ambitiousace wrote:

"I'm nonbinary and ace myself ((I'm not alone"

Oh, how cool! I seem to be racking up letters on the queer spectrum; what is surprising is how many other queer folk out there are doing the same. :)

Kjata wrote:

"I'm bi and have never felt a part of the LGBT parts of the internet because of how many times I've been told to either A) choose, or B) that I'm faking it for e-points"

As a formerly bisexual-identifying person, I can't decide whether they're just clueless that B isn't actually an insult of bisexuality. I mean, they think being bi is something trendy that you'd want to fake? (*Whips on sunshades and looks cool.*)

The rest - yeah, it's tedious that this sort of stereotyping of bisexuality is still taking place, nearly fifty years after Stonewall.

Schneefink wrote:

"*sends cookies*"

Gluten-free chocolate chip, please?

Rose Red wrote:

"(I hope) my web-pal."

One of my best. :)

Fawatson wrote:

"I say all this from the 'lofty position' of having realised many many moons ago (long before the internet got up and running) that I am better off as a singleton than trying to be part of a duo.... They didn't have internet communities for it back then"

Oh, you too? I'm pretty sure the asexual community was around by the time I started to label myself celibate (my initial label), but the nonbinary community was nowhere to be seen in 1997 when I realized that was what I was. I put off coming out as bigender/androgynous/queergender/nonbinary (the terminology kept changing) for quite a few years as a result. I wanted a support system, darn it.

Anonymous wrote:

"I am also aromantic, and demi-girl/agender."

(*Looks up definition of "demi-girl" and is enchanted.*) I mean, you even have your own flag! Do you mind if I ask what being a demi-girl is like for you?

Musicman wrote:

"You are a free range human being, Dusk."

Love that phrase. :)

Anais_pf wrote:

"BE YOU!"

:)

Maureen Lycaon wrote:

"And I accept you totally as that."

Always nice to hear from you! This showed up on my Twitter feed, and I thought of you quizzing me on why I'd made wolves the villains in one of my stories.

silver_chipmunk

Got an e-mail from Denise saying she thinks the estimate for the cottage is too high, sent to me, The Kid, and Betsy, and Aunt Helen. Then Betsy replies she thinks it's too high too. So why didn't she say something before? Did Aunt Helen not tell anyone about the estimate before this? I'm puzzled and annoyed.

Anyway. Aside from that. Was very late to work today, had the old problem of having trouble getting up. But once I got in everything was OK. Did the laptop program with the teens and it went very well. Called the vet and told them about Bjorn. The doctor called back later to offer his condolences, which I thought was nice. I made arrangements to bring his body in tomorrow. Oldest Brother is meeting me here and taking me.

The FWiB called and we talked on the way to my meeting. He;s still not feeling great, but better.

My meeting was fine. Was on gratitude, which is something I try to always keep in mind.

And that's all.

Gratitude List:

1. My meetings and the people there.

2. The FWiB.

3. Oldest Brother.

4. The cottage, despite problems.

5. Nice weather.

6. Roses.

Current Mood: annoyed
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duskpeterson

Latest chapter: Chapter 17/27.

Online fiction: Law Links at AO3.

Free multiformat e-book: Law Links.

Series: The Three Lands.

Series resources: The Great Peninsula: series resources for The Three Lands.

Latest chapter: Chapter 14/23. End of "Mercy's Prisoner 2: Men and Lads." Next week: "Mercy's Prisoner 3: Milord."

Online fiction: Mercy's Prisoner at AO3.

Free multiformat e-book: Mercy's Prisoner.

Series: Life Prison.

Series cycle: Turn-of-the-Century Toughs.

Latest chapter: Chapter 5/15.

Online fiction: Truth and Trust at AO3.

Free multiformat e-book: Sweet Blood.

Series: The Eternal Dungeon.

Series cycle: Turn-of-the-Century Toughs.

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kerkevik_2014

No DLA.

I have 18p.

To all the peeps I've been lending money to the bank is closed.

At some point soon I will run out of data for the internet, so will be pretty much uncontactable except by post.

So long, and thanks for all the fish.

kerk hiraeth

Current Mood: tired
Current Location: who cares?
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silver_chipmunk

Again spent the day with

mashfanfichick, her mother, and Mandy. Mandy left with her brother in the most overpacked VW bug I've ever seen, but she got most of her stuff in.

We had lunch at Qdoba, and called in Thai for dinner.

The FWiB called, and we talked a brief time. He's feeling better than he was yesterday, which is a relief.

mashfanficchick and I spent time ordering stuff from Oriental Trading for Halloween.

Gratitude List:

1. Friends.

2. Long weekend.

3. The FWiB feeling better.

4. Halloween soon.

5. Air conditioning... in October!

6. Pad Thai for dinner.