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if i'm terse and cranky-sounding in this entry, i apologise.
i'm just going to shorten names to A and S, because we know them already
1. A's comment - "I can't help but notice you belong to an LJ community called boy_touching. Maybe you should go back there." like astrokaiju, gryfindormia, and others, i took a look at the community and saw it was 18+, with no porn allowed. so that cancels out A's accusation that S was a pedophile. i interpreted a's tone as "go back to something lesser." that he was implying that being gay is something lesser. i hope that wording made sense.
2. both A and S were awesome posters. we know that. they will be missed. but just because you are a good poster does not give you the right to abuse another member. it doesn't give you the right to insult and lecture another member who has a differing opinion, or posted something you don't like.
it really, really disgusted me going through those entries and comments.
i am thinking of placing a temporary ban, but i'm still playing with it. if this happens, both A and S would be re-instated, to be completely fair.
i just want this to be a safe, considerate, and comfortable community where people can post without being scared they'll be attacked/flamed.
again, sorry for sounding so bitter and cranky. i used italics a lot. dumb me. i'm really tired. some sentences may have come out wrongly-worded. i'm going to bed.
i'm just going to shorten names to A and S, because we know them already
1. A's comment - "I can't help but notice you belong to an LJ community called boy_touching. Maybe you should go back there." like astrokaiju, gryfindormia, and others, i took a look at the community and saw it was 18+, with no porn allowed. so that cancels out A's accusation that S was a pedophile. i interpreted a's tone as "go back to something lesser." that he was implying that being gay is something lesser. i hope that wording made sense.
2. both A and S were awesome posters. we know that. they will be missed. but just because you are a good poster does not give you the right to abuse another member. it doesn't give you the right to insult and lecture another member who has a differing opinion, or posted something you don't like.
it really, really disgusted me going through those entries and comments.
i am thinking of placing a temporary ban, but i'm still playing with it. if this happens, both A and S would be re-instated, to be completely fair.
i just want this to be a safe, considerate, and comfortable community where people can post without being scared they'll be attacked/flamed.
again, sorry for sounding so bitter and cranky. i used italics a lot. dumb me. i'm really tired. some sentences may have come out wrongly-worded. i'm going to bed.
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Date: 2008-03-15 03:09 am (UTC)And I hope you reinstate, because I know certain people will just change their username/ get a new account and rejoin anyway. It has happened before in other communities. Maybe clearer rules in the use info would be good? That way if drama erupts again, there will be no confusion over why someone was banned.
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Date: 2008-03-15 04:23 am (UTC)It seems this community is getting popular/populous enough that it's attracting drama queens, and some ground rules about acceptable behavior need to be established. A good, clear set of rules will also help loyal comm members self-regulate if the mod can't be around all the time.
fwiw,